Yesterday I was doing a heroic AN with my DK (the undead one). There was another DK there taking for us. I asked him if he needed the plate belt that dropped from the last boss, and he said all he was after was a tanking trinket. I asked him which trinkets he was using now when this shaman says "What difference does it make? It's personal choice really anyway."
I said "I was just wondering because I was building a tank set and wanted to know what I should be looking for. And what? Are you his mother?"
"She's my girlfriend," the dk said.
I LOLed.
Later on I suggested that she use another earth totem than Strength of Earth because it overwrites Horn of Winter. She got defensive again and said that her totem was more powerful and that she knew how to play and wasn't a noob. Her boyfriend then whispered me to leave her alone let her do what she wants. I got the idea that's how things usually went in their relationship. I obliged, but told him to tell her that someone giving her advice isn't the same thing as calling her a noob.
To be fair, there are a few things that could have prompted her reaction, none of them having to do with the kind of person she is or their relationship. WoW culture, and maybe online culture in general, has gotten really vicious with the newb/noob label. People attach a lot of value to not being one, and being called one is quite an insult. It's generally assumed that new players are born into original newbness, and they can only cleanse themselves by either showing proficiency in the game, or proficiency in trash talking.
To be proficient in the game, one doesn't need to top the dps charts, or heal an entire group without ever running out of mana, or any other measure people use to inflate their epeen. It just means to do the things that makes everyone's life in the group easier and don't interfere with their fun: attacking the right target, don't pull threat, keeping the tank healed, etc. Now there are two types of people that have trouble with this. There are people who are new to the game and/or are little practiced in grouping. These people are usually referred to in the benign form Newb. With practice, these people will become proficient and productive members of the gaming community.
The second group of people are noobs. These are people who either know how to play and choose not to, or don't know how to play and don't care. They feel that to compensate for their noobness they can trash talk and denigrate anyone that calls them out on it. If you've ever visited the Warcraft official forums or your realms trade channel, you know who I'm talking about. These people are borderline sociopaths. They expect the competent to carry them through content. The rest of us, we spend our $15 a month to have killing monsters, getting loot, and socializing with one another. They spend $15 a month to make sure we don't enjoy doing any of those things while we're in their company. In short, they are not saved.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a Newb. We all were at some point in the game, and we all are at some thing in our lives. Perhaps it's because we live in such an info-centric culture that we have developed this anxiety towards ignorance. But we can't let this anxiety keep us from learning or teaching. Because knowledge is the only salvation from original newbness.
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